New Years is a wonderful time to create goals and habits articulated in the past and maybe never achieved.   I see this at the gym every January. It gets exceptionally crowded January 2nd. Everyone is in a great mood and the classes are at...

This summer was significant for me as it marked the one-year anniversary of Craig’s transition. When Craig passed, people told me that the first year would be the hardest. It makes sense and it was definitely difficult to experience all of the “firsts” without him....

Spring Cleaning for Couples I love Spring. Particularly this year after so much cold and rain, the warmth of the sun feels healing. I used to feel that fall was my favorite season because I love jeans and boots at the first hint of fall, but...

Have you ever noticed that we tend to focus on what's going wrong with our relationship rather than what's going right? This is what psychologists and sociologists refer to as "negativity bias." Here is an example of how it works in our brains: Imagine going on...

We love this saying because it underlies so many of the breakdowns that couples have: We argue for our intentions, but others judge us on our impact. Why do we find it so meaningful in our practice? When we say things that upset or offend the person...

We’ve been trained on different therapies and we find that what each therapy really focuses on is useful in different situations. When you’re looking at a therapist or for a therapist, you want one that you have a good connection with and that gets good...

"There is nothing more gentle than true strength and there is nothing stronger than true gentleness." — Terry Real Of the many types of intimacy, the one that couples find most difficult is emotional intimacy. Often written as Into-Me-You-See, it’s a phonetic joke that has real...

Couples often ask us to recommend additional resources for taking their relationship to the next level. We decided to put together a list of our common recommendations, which include those you can do even now as we are in shutdown—and some for later, when you...