All of us have witnessed the effects of anger - one harsh word can wipe out a lifetime of loving moments. Here's how you and your partner can end relationship negativity. An accurate measurement of how you're doing as a couple is how much negativity...
Three Relationship Magic Words Most people think of the phrase "I love you" when they think of three relationship magic words. I think there are many magic words to use in relationships. However, in my opinion, the three most extraordinary words to assist with the cultivation...
In a conscious relationship, one notices the importance of eye contact. There is an exercise that you can practice with your partner called Eye Gazing. I was once in a Zen monastery called Tassajara, a retreat center in Northern California. While I was ...
Understanding Perspective in Relationships When I'm counseling a couple, often times they both have the same exact experience but have completely different perspectives of what actually happened. Usually one of the partners is trying to impose their perspective on the other, which is what's creating the...
As I have said, healthy happy relationships do not just happen, we need healthy habits and habits require effort. One of the habits every relationship needs is the habit of having fun. Your relationship should only be serious 25% of the time while the rest of...
A recent article reported a team of scientists has found that people are, more often than not, attracted to others who share the similar values and views. What's more, they say, is that these similar views may lead to a more successful relationship. On the...
“Out beyond rightness or wrongness, there is a field. I will meet you there.” - Rumi, 13th century Persian poet While the title of this post makes a nice, short headline, the question could be better stated, “Why do couples’ fights become so heated and painful?” and “Is there...
In the 1970s, the divorce rate in the United States rose to 50% and that is where it has hovered for the last 40 years. Many marriage researchers report that marriage today has more pressure on it than ever before. Partners today expect their relationships...
Marriage education needs a little humor. Seriously folks, considering printing out this list and posting it somewhere you'll see it regularly. Marriage needs reminders. Thou shall practice daily acts of caring and kindness Thou shall not criticize blame or shame your partner Thou shall focus...
For young couples, the thrill of engagement and wedding preparations can overshadow an important fact: on the other side of the honeymoon, life as usual awaits. What will married life look like? Marriage education not only prepares partners for the challenges and opportunities of married...