We are excited to kick off the new year with updating our blog again. This month we have been focused on sharing resources on how you can grow together with your partner and we feel that having a relationship vision is extremely important. We enter a...
“Anyone who knows me, should learn to know me again, for I am like the moon, you will see me with a new face every day” ~ Rumi, 12th-century Persian poet These words by Rumi are a reminder to never stop getting to know your partner....
The following is the first in a two-part series on the subject of jealousy, or as many refer to, "the green-eyed monster." The blog is based on a couple I will call Bob and June.* June is dealing with strong feelings of jealousy. To begin...
For around 30 years, researchers have studied how having children affects a marriage, and the results are conclusive: the relationship between spouses suffers once kids come along. Comparing couples with and without children, researchers found that the rate of the decline in relationship satisfaction is nearly...
It’s our judging mind that separates us from feelings.Empathy is listening with your heart and feeling the emotions involved in communicating with your partner. It is imagining – and on some level, experiencing – the emotions that your partner is sending. It is the ability...
BY SOME ESTIMATES, 30% OF MARRIED HOUSEHOLDS CONTAIN A MISMATCH IN PARTISAN POLITICAL VIEWS. As a marriage and relationship therapist I pride myself on having a wonderful relationship with my girlfriend. We communicate very well and easily resolve our conflicts by dealing with issues directly and...
Three Relationship Magic Words Most people think of the phrase "I love you" when they think of three relationship magic words. I think there are many magic words to use in relationships. However, in my opinion, the three most extraordinary words to assist with the cultivation...
Understanding Perspective in Relationships When I'm counseling a couple, often times they both have the same exact experience but have completely different perspectives of what actually happened. Usually one of the partners is trying to impose their perspective on the other, which is what's creating the...
In my last post, “Can Men and Women Really Be Just Friends?” I covered the issues that make opposite sex friendships challenging. It explores the perspectives of both partners -- the one involved in the friendship as well as the one outside it. Please read...
In my relationship counseling practice, a number of the couples I work with explain with great distress that their spouses have friends of the opposite sex. Frequently these are friendships that developed before the couple met. Some of them even dated for a short time...