The following is the second in a two-part series on the subject of jealousy, or as many refer to it, “the green-eyed monster.” In my previous post, I discussed the story of Bob and June, and June’s strong feelings of jealousy about her husband’s relationship with his...
The following is the first in a two-part series on the subject of jealousy, or as many refer to, "the green-eyed monster." The blog is based on a couple I will call Bob and June.* June is dealing with strong feelings of jealousy. To begin...
For around 30 years, researchers have studied how having children affects a marriage, and the results are conclusive: the relationship between spouses suffers once kids come along. Comparing couples with and without children, researchers found that the rate of the decline in relationship satisfaction is nearly...
"The task is not to seek love but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you built against it" - Rumi As we approach Valentine's Day, I can't help but to think about love. While there are many aspects of love, for...
As discussed in my previous blog, this last year between Debbie and I have been filled with divisiveness. I had become very triggered to the point where I would not listen to anything she said about Trump. What I didn't quite realize was that my...
Recently, Debbie Seid and I were interviewed by Clare Ansberry, Pittsburgh bureau chief of The Wall Street Journal. In her post, How to Reconcile with Family and Friends After the Election, we were candid about our experience with differing political views this election cycle. Also featured on Lunch Break...
Eye contact is particularly important when communicating with our partner. We all know that nonverbal communication is always happening. We communicate nonverbally with our tone of voice, facial expressions, touch, eye contact, etc. Often times, the message we are communicating nonverbally contradicts what we are verbally expressing....
When working with engaged couples, we discuss the importance of open communication regarding money matters. Often, couples don’t know the questions or topics they should be discussing before walking down the aisle. Below, our friends at the San Diego Family Mediation Center tackle six important questions each...
How to work towards taking responsibility, and reduce placing blame. There are three cardinal sins in relationships and blaming is one of them. When you blame someone, you take no responsibility for your part in it. That’s because when something goes wrong, there is usually so...
It’s our judging mind that separates us from feelings.Empathy is listening with your heart and feeling the emotions involved in communicating with your partner. It is imagining – and on some level, experiencing – the emotions that your partner is sending. It is the ability...