“The task is not to seek love but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you built against it” ~ Rumi As we approach Valentine’s Day we can’t help but to think about love. “What is love anyhow?” We believe...
“The moment one gives close attention to anything, even a blade of grass, it becomes a mysterious, awesome, indescribably magnificent world in itself.” – Henry Miller As a relationship couples’ therapist, the question I have always pondered is, can you be mindful or fully present in relationship?...
We are excited to kick off the new year with updating our blog again. This month we have been focused on sharing resources on how you can grow together with your partner and we feel that having a relationship vision is extremely important. We enter a...
In a conscious relationship, one notices the importance of eye contact. There is an exercise that you can practice with your partner called Eye Gazing. I was once in a Zen monastery called Tassajara, a retreat center in Northern California. While I was ...
Easy connection can be yours when you communicate intentionally rather than competitively. Everyone wants a safe connection and most are baffled that it’s so difficult to achieve. My previous post, “3 Reasons Typical Couples’ Communication Stinks,” covered just why so many couples feel they aren’t...
In his popular New York Times article, “The All or Nothing Marriage,” researcher and Northwestern University psychology professor Eli Finkel claims that that the goal of marriage in the 21st Century has shifted. Finkel asserts that most couples now find the 20th Century’s “companionate marriage”—which...
Mindfulness training helps create safe bonds[/caption] Psychologists, researchers and other therapists know well that a failure in emotional connection and validation is a more powerful driver of infidelity than sexual dissatisfaction or boredom. As I discussed in my previous article, “3 Great Mindfulness Exercises for...
Quick . . . Which golfing/gardening/photography magazines or blogs do you get to fuel your favorite hobby? How many hikes, bike rides or swims did you do or take this month to stay in shape? How many professional articles have your read in the last...