“Out beyond rightness or wrongness, there is a field. I will meet you there.” - Rumi, 13th century Persian poet While the title of this post makes a nice, short headline, the question could be better stated, “Why do couples’ fights become so heated and painful?” and “Is there...
For young couples, the thrill of engagement and wedding preparations can overshadow an important fact: on the other side of the honeymoon, life as usual awaits. What will married life look like? Marriage education not only prepares partners for the challenges and opportunities of married...
In his popular New York Times article, “The All or Nothing Marriage,” researcher and Northwestern University psychology professor Eli Finkel claims that that the goal of marriage in the 21st Century has shifted. Finkel asserts that most couples now find the 20th Century’s “companionate marriage”—which...
I’ve said this so much, but it bears repeating: “Relationship skills do not come naturally. We are not born with the relationship skills we need. They must be taught and practiced, just as language, cooking or math skills must be taught and practiced.” Wouldn’t preparing your first...
We parents need to be doing a better job at getting couples to premarital counseling. Marriage is a sacred partnership and should be treated as such. The society our children are growing up in today has lost sight of the centrality of marriage and the...
Exploring a relationship through pre-marital counseling takes some courage, but the benefits are irrefutable! Pre-marital counseling not only prepares partners for the challenges and opportunities of married life, it enriches the pre-marital stage and deepens their relationship, making them even more excited to commit to...